Beginning therapy can be both exciting and intimidating. Whether you’re new to therapy or returning after some time away, you might wonder what to expect, how to prepare, or whether your concerns are “big enough” to bring into a session.
At Kingston & Co Counseling, we understand that starting therapy is a courageous step. We also know that the unknown can make that first appointment feel a little overwhelming. To help ease your mind, we’ve compiled five things your therapist wants you to know before you walk through the door—or log in for your first virtual session.
You Don’t Need to Have It All Figured Out
One of the biggest misconceptions about therapy is that you need to come in with a clear agenda, diagnosis, or list of goals. The truth is, many people start therapy simply knowing that something feels “off” or that they’re not coping as well as they’d like.
Your therapist’s role is to help you explore what’s going on beneath the surface and clarify what matters most to you. Whether you’re dealing with stress, relationship issues, or just feeling stuck, you don’t need to have all the answers—that’s what therapy is for.
If you’re unsure whether therapy is right for you, learn more about how we support individuals through Individual Therapy.
Progress Isn’t Always Linear
Healing and growth don’t follow a straight line. Some weeks you may feel breakthroughs and clarity, while others may feel heavier or more confusing. That’s completely normal.
Therapy often involves revisiting past pain, confronting limiting beliefs, and experimenting with new ways of thinking or behaving. It can be uncomfortable at times—but discomfort can also be a sign that meaningful change is happening.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by life changes or emotions, our team can help you find grounding through consistent, compassionate support. Explore our full Therapy Services to see how we can meet you where you are.
Honesty (Even When It’s Hard) Is Key
It’s natural to want to present your best self—even in therapy. But the more open and honest you can be about your thoughts, feelings, and struggles, the more your therapist can help.
Therapy is a judgment-free space. That includes the parts of yourself you might hide in other areas of life—your fears, insecurities, and even things you’re not proud of. The real magic of therapy happens when you’re willing to show up as your whole, authentic self.
And if vulnerability is hard for you (as it is for many people), you’re not alone. Our therapists are trained to help you build trust at your own pace.
It’s Okay If You Don’t Click With Your First Therapist
Therapy is a relationship—and like any relationship, the right fit matters. If you don’t feel comfortable or connected with your therapist after a few sessions, that’s okay. It doesn’t mean therapy isn’t for you—it just means you haven’t found the right therapeutic match yet.
At Kingston & Co Counseling, we believe in the power of strong therapeutic relationships. Our team offers a variety of specialties and styles, from Couples Therapy to Child Therapy, so you can find a clinician who resonates with your needs.
If something isn’t working, we’re here to help you find a better fit—no hard feelings, just a commitment to your growth.
You Deserve Support—Even If Things “Aren’t That Bad”
Many people delay starting therapy because they feel like their problems aren’t “serious enough.” But therapy isn’t just for crises. It’s for anyone who wants to feel better, grow emotionally, and create healthier patterns in their life and relationships.
If you’ve ever thought:
- “Other people have it worse.”
- “I should be able to handle this on my own.”
- “I’m just being dramatic.”
…you’re not alone. And none of those beliefs disqualify you from getting help.
You don’t need to reach a breaking point to benefit from therapy. In fact, early support can prevent deeper struggles down the road.
Conclusion
Starting therapy is an act of courage—and an investment in your emotional well-being. You don’t need to be in crisis, have all the answers, or know exactly where to begin. All you need is the willingness to show up.
At Kingston & Co Counseling, we’re here to walk alongside you with warmth, compassion, and curiosity. Whether you’re navigating anxiety, relationship issues, or simply looking to better understand yourself, our team of therapists is here to support you.
Ready to begin?
Reach out through our Contact Page to schedule your first session. Your story matters, and we’re here to help you tell it with honesty, hope, and healing.
